Ask Mome

Let's face it, we could all use a little help getting through this journey we call life, right? So why not ask Mome.

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Dear Mome,

I've been seeing this guy for about a year now and everything has been wonderful up until recently. About a week ago I decided to change my hair style for the first time since he and I have been dating. I love it, but him not so much, and it seems to be causing friction in our relationship. What should I do?

Signed,

Anonymous

Hi Anonymous,

Sounds to me like you're seeing a guy that's more concerned about what's on your head then what's in it. I say if you really like the hairstyle keep it. If your guy really cares about you it'll grow on him too, and if it doesn't remind him that he won't see it when the lights are off anyway. (wink, wink) Just kidding about that last part.

Until next time. :-)

xoxo,

Mome

Dear Mome,

There are some things I just never learned how to do, and cooking is one of those things. Unfortunately, I have a girlfriend that loves a man that can cook but every time I try to make something I ruin it. The last time I tried cooking something the fire department had to be called out to my house because I almost burned the place down. I love my girlfriend but honestly this cooking thing has really got me stressed out. Any suggestions on what I should do?

Signed,

Man at his wits end


Hi man at his wits end,

So obviously we always want the best for our significant other, but we may not always be able to give them this. At least not in the form that they may be asking for it. So here are my suggestions. Now I'm not sure what you have previously done to prepare for cooking, but I would recommend taking a cooking class or classes. Sometimes it's easier to learn by going to an actual class and having someone guide you through the process. Another suggestion is to try cooking with your girlfriend. Maybe you could make it a fun little event for you two, by asking her what she has a taste for, then you two search the internet for a step-by-step recipe, go to the market for the ingredients, and then come back home and make it together. Hopefully these suggestions will be all that you need to accomplish your cooking goal. But if all else fails you can always wait until your girlfriend isn't around, order up something tasty, then place it on your best dinnerware to present it as if you cooked it yourself. Just make sure you don't throw the containers from the take-out in your inside trash cans. (smile) I've also attached a link for online cooking classes that I thought might be exciting.

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Until next time. :-)

xoxo,

Mome


Dear Mome,

Recently I purchased a brand-new washing machine because it was a little more convenient for me to wash clothes at home than lugging multiple bags of dirty laundry to the laundromat like I use to, but since I got my washer and dryer a neighbor of mine keeps coming over to use it and it has gotten so excessive that my electric and water bills are starting to go up. What should I do to get the neighbor to stop washing their clothes so much without hurting their feelings?

Signed,

Traci


Hi Traci,

I feel that honesty is the best policy, but I also know that there are many different personality types out here. That being said, here's a few options: 1) You could politely ask the neighbor to stop washing their clothes at your place so much because it's running up your bill. 2) You could let the neighbor know that since your electric and water bill have gone up due to their excessive washing and drying of clothes you are going to have to begin charging them. 3) Or you can simply tell them that your washing machine is broken (and if they hear you using it and the cycles through the wall tell them it was the dishwasher). :-) Whichever option you choose make sure it's the right choice for you.

xoxo,

Mome


Dear Mome,

I'm extremely interested in getting into the entertainment industry, preferably performing dance or singing. I feel that I am talented but have a fear of rejection, which keeps me from putting myself out there. I once got all the way to an audition, which was close to 300 miles from my home, and I chickened out. What would you recommend doing to get over this fear?

Signed,

I want to be fearless

Hi, I want to be fearless,

First of all, I'd like to say that I think that it is awesome that you are taking the initiative to move out from that place where you feel stuck in fear, towards moving forward. Plenty of people face anxiety when challenged with accomplishing a task, so don't feel alone. I would first of all recommend speaking with your doctor about this because they have many options to assist with coping with what you're going through. Also, you can try not going it alone. Try taking a loved one with you to your next audition, maybe a family member or friend that can cheer you on and give you that extra push you need. In addition to those options keep in mind that if you never try, you'll never know how far you can go.

Best wishes to you in whatever you choose to do. :-)

xoxo,

Mome